Want to know what a man wants from his wife?
Join Leah with Guest Speaker Rabbi Benzion Klatzko as they delve into what romance actually is and how to achieve it. This show will open your eyes to what your husband wants from you and how to get him to connect to you. Finally!
What are some of the most common marriage misconceptions?
- That we have to feel madly in love and if not, something is wrong. There’s little romance in the daily grind so we think we’ve settled or have an unhealthy marriage.
- Romance is an immature way of looking at relationships as it’s not sustainable or an accurate reflection of a healthy marriage.
- When we feel good about ourselves and around our spouse, we’re walking on sunshine and the person who facilitates that is celebrating too, and this engenders romance. It starts with fulfilling ourselves and being productive together in a healthy way.
- Instead of focusing on romance, focus on living lives where you respect, empower and admire each other.
- Each day, thank each other. This morphs into romance.
How should women handle conflict in marriage?
- With lack of drama. Hashem created women to be emotionally attuned but this can lead to over dramatizing things which men are not hardwired for.
- In marriage, a man needs to learn empathy and how to get more in touch with his emotions and sensitivity. A woman’s job is to tone down the drama or she’ll sound irrational and her husband can’t connect to that.
- To lessen conflict women need to contextualize and realize that men are different. When everything becomes drama, everything loses its meaning.
- A woman’s wisdom is how to express hurt (without drama,) without making him feel attacked.
Aside from date night, how can couples keep the spark alive?
- Let’s revisit what the spark is. We know it’s not romance. If you take time each day to look your best, showing your spouse that you care about their opinion, that’s very alluring and creates spark.
What advice would you give a woman who is feeling disconnected from her husband?
- Disconnection isn’t the end of the world, sometimes there’s less distance but you can always jumpstart.
- Suggest something uncharacteristic to do together. Throw a curveball to interrupt the pattern of life. If there are 2 good people, you can always jumpstart the connection.
What are 3 top tips a woman can do to improve her marriage today?
- Make him delicious food. It’s not just because men like to eat, there’s something connecting about a wife making food for her husband. It’s not the food, it’s the message that you mean a lot to me.
- Be predictable. There’s nothing a man wants more than predictability; he likes rhythm. If he doesn’t know what sort of wife he’s coming home to, it’s very disconcerting. Knowing he’s coming home to a safe place is number one. How? For the first 15 minutes after he comes home, don’t jump on him.
- Be spiritually curious. When dating this is an important part of why spouses choose each other. Then we get stuck in the daily grind and we miss this aspect. Bring it to the forefront of your minds- learn together, share a story or thought.
