Secret Wives Club: Episode 17- What Can I Do For You? – pg 51-55
These magic words can be so hard to say sometimes, but they truly can create magic in your marriage!
In this episode, Leah begins Chapter 3 of Marriage Secrets with pages 51-55, and reveals the power of a woman’s words to her husband in a way that will blow your mind!
Tune in for the first 9 minutes or so to hear the scoop in her own words, beginning at timecode 0:40!
Leah’s Points to Ponder:
- Our husbands are like trees: if they are not constantly watered and nourished and showered with our love, they shrivel up.
- The secret to a spectacular marriage is putting our husband at the very top of our priority list every single time.
Lisa: Why is it always up to the woman to work on the marriage?
Leah: I don’t know why, I just know that it works, whereas waiting for him to change doesn’t.
Tali: When my husband needs a listening ear or advice or empathy, I feel like I always say the wrong thing and he’s not satisfied. It makes me so sad.
Leah: Good for you for trying! Tell him that you want to work on filling his needs and you feel like you’re missing the mark. “Please tell me what I can do to help you feel more heard?”
Chana: How can I appear empathetic to my husband without patronizing him?
Leah: Rarely will too much praise or compliments backfire on you. Usually, the need for it is so real. Choose a specific point- however tiny that you can be sincere about it.
Chaya: I agree about us being a frazzled generation…how do I make my life less frazzled?
Leah: Prioritizing. Making your husband #1 at every moment is the answer to all your problems. “What can I do for my husband right now?” Remember that if you make him your king, he will treat you like a queen! Tune in at timecode 21:40 for a personal story from Sarit!
Jane: My husband always wants 20 minutes to relax when he comes home- why can’t I get 20 minutes? He works full time, but I’m a stay-at-home mom which is also full-time.
Leah: Remember that equality is the wrong measure for the home. Do you want it because you need it or because he gets it? If you really need it, that can be a respectful conversation at a peaceful time. When a man is at work, he has to be running after everything (clients, sales, time, etc.). When he gets home, everything should be coming towards him (love, space, time, material needs). All the efforts you exert to give him that 20 minutes will bring you tremendous blessing- guaranteed.
Try This at Home:
At least one time this week, ask yourself, “What can I do for my husband right now?”
