It’s time for another round of Leah’s popular game show, Worst Wife Ever, featuring improv comedians Taylor Loeb, Julie Mann, and Sigi Ravet, plus our own Social Media Manager Jocelynn Miller pinch-hitting for Rachael Drummond. The ladies are competing for our trophy as the worst wife imaginable. This episode deals with the all-too-common problem of being WAY TOO FRENZIED!
Here’s a taste of what went down, but be sure to watch the whole episode for all the hilarity, practical tips, and to see who won the trophy! Learning and laughter are the best combination!
Scenario #5:
The morning frenzy turns even worse, because your husband is hogging the only bathroom by taking the world’s longest shower, so no one else can get ready. What do you do?
Julie: I’d pop the lock and send the kids in to get ready even with him in there!
Jocelynn: I’d flush the toilet which would turn the shower water freezing cold- I used to do it to my sister when she took too long!
Sigi: The next morning I’m going to take a long, luxuriating bath and he’ll have to deal with everything while I take my time in there.
Taylor: I would just leave, and he could figure out dealing with the kids when he finally gets out!
Leah: What would the best wife do?
In the heat of the moment, it’s not the time to confront him. This is really where self-mastery comes in. It’s super hard, since he’s 100% wrong and you’re 100% right. Just inhale and exhale. Zip your lip, get through the morning, and at a time when you are both calm, fed, and rested, talk to him about it. Ask him for help in preventing it in the future.
Scenario #6:
There are hard-boiled eggs in the refrigerator, but instead your husband asks you to make him an omelet, even though you are clearly busy to the point of frenzy. What do you do?
Taylor: I’d put on a video from the Food Network showing him how to make an omelet and remind him that cleaning up is part of the job.
Sigi: I’d take the hard-boiled eggs out of the fridge and mash them down flat like an omelet. Bon apetit!
Jocelynn: I’d make an Omelet Surprise, and include a non-egg-related item. As he eats it, he has to guess what I included- it will be so much fun…for me!
Julie: I’m going to make an omelet a la eggshell. Crack the egg into the pan with shells included for an extra crunchy omelet!
Leah: What would the best wife do?
In this situation, there’s a very simple solution: You say, “No. I’m sorry, sweetie, but I’m just too swamped right now.” If he is resentful, talk to him about it later.
Leah’s Tips to Fight the Frenzy:
- Anything you’re about to do, ask yourself: will this be a restorative or depleting activity?
- Take a minimum of 10 minutes a day for a restorative activity
- Have a schedule for when you work, and when you don’t work.
- i.e. no work after 9 pm, only family time during dinner, etc.
- Exercise daily
- walk around the block or a ten-minute routine
- Regular sleep
- Train your kids that there are times that are just mommy time
- Delegate as much as you can (housekeeper, babysitter, swap with friends)
- Plan trouble spots in advance with your husband
- most frenzied times are recurring, so come up with plans with him to make them as smooth as possible
Watch to see who wins worst wife, and get the tools you need to be the best wife!
Try This at Home:
Work on being aware before you start doing something if the activity will restore you or deplete you. This will help you tune in to when you need to take time to replenish your reserves and avoid the frenzy!
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