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In this episode, Leah tackles the next section of Marriage Secrets, pgs. 24-26, which continues to explore some of her journey in making marriage her mission, with powerful words from one of the great rabbis of this generation.

Tune in for the first 5 minutes or so to hear the pivotal story in her own words, beginning at timecode 01:17!

Leah’s Points to Ponder:

• “Shalom (peace) is so great that it is equal to everything in creation.” (Midrash Rabbah, Bamidbar)
• “Without shalom, there is nothing, because shalom outweighs everything else.” (Toras Kohanim)
• Shalom is the one issue in today’s world that has the potential to heal all others.

Viewer Questions:
Shelly: Marriage is such a private topic. It’s not something I feel comfortable discussing with a friend, family member, or even a rabbi.
Leah: Asking questions to a rabbi or rebbetzin (not a friend or relative!) is so crucial. We all need an objective opinion that also comes with wisdom and experience. It’s not about comfort, it’s about necessity. Remember that they are asked so many questions, they don’t remember who asked what, and they certainly don’t judge you for it. If you are still bothered by it, send an anonymous email or find someone out of town. But a rabbi/rebbetzin is a must!

Rachel: What gave you such a strong resolve to spread this mesorah (tradition)? And how do you do it?
Leah: If there’s peace in the home there’s peace in the world! This trickles down to everything so it’s a way to make a maximum impact. SO many divorces are unnecessary and just due to a lack of education in communication, expectations, etc.

Tova: I’ve always learned that my happiness is dependent on myself. How can I focus on doing things to make myself happy if my primary focus is supposed to be making my husband happy? And isn’t he responsible for his own happiness too?
Leah: Giving and connecting is the greatest route to happiness. If you journal your happiest moments, you will see this pan out. (Tune in at 18:54 for a beautiful illustration of how happiness works!)

Tammy: Do you believe we as women hold the key to sholom bayis? Is that why your show is aimed toward women? What about sholom bayis education for men? Don’t you think it’s just as important?
Leah: Women tend to be more relationship-focused, while men are doing their own stuff for the most part. Good luck sitting around waiting for him to work on it! If you start the work, you can accomplish a world of difference all on your own.

Try This at Home:
Greet your husband at the door at least once this week. See what a difference it can make!