I have enough work to do…I’m not working on marriage too!
Join Leah with Miriam Goldberg as they discuss marriage misconceptions and disconnection. Find out what The Three C’s are…this is not a recipe for chocolate chip cookies; this is a recipe to flip your marriage!
What are some common marriage misconceptions people have?
- People think that marriage just happens on its own; they don’t invest yet want big returns. The upkeep is critical.
- People also think “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it,” so they’ll go through life with a satisfactory marriage as opposed to an amazing marriage.
- It won’t happen if we don’t invest, that means spending some time together, mindfulness and enjoying ourselves. If I’m an enjoyable person to be around, then my husband will enjoy me more.
- We distract ourselves from ourselves, but we need to make the time and move out of our comfort zone to make our marriage great.
How should women deal with conflict in marriage?
- Conflict is seen as something that comes between a husband and wife and they’re on two different teams. Conflict should be seen as something that they as a team need to overcome.
- When a husband and wife don’t see eye to eye there is nothing wrong with this, women don’t want men who say yes to everything and men want to hear their wife’s opinion.
- Bringing two opinions to the table gives a richer context, they need to both be heard but seeing the others perspective and not taking it personally helps.
- Hearing his perspective helps him to see yours.
What advice would you give to a woman who is feeling disconnected from her husband?
- It’s very normal to feel disconnected.
- Be Curious- don’t jump to conclusions.
- Communicate- before communicating take a deep breath and ask yourself what’s really bothering you? That pause will help it come out nicely so it doesn’t sound like noise. Use the “I” message.
- Compassion- if he seems distant try to see if he’s going through a hard time.
What are 3 top tips a woman can do to improve her marriage today?
- Positivity- be on the lookout for something positive you see in your spouse.
- Spend quality time- 20-25mins without speaking about stressful issues. Just enjoy each other.
- Say good words- complement, encourage, find something good to say to your spouse at least once a day.
