Help! My husband doesn’t help around the house, and I am getting so resentful!
Join Leah as she examines how we should fight for equality in the workplace but how equality in the home just causes fights. Ladies, put those mops down and listen in.
Leah’s Points To Ponder:
- The first step is to change our mindset that things have to be equal.
- There’s a disparity between a husband’s standard of tidiness and a women’s. A man may not notice mess whereas a woman will base her identity on this. We also need to differentiate cleanliness and tidiness.
- Feeling resentment is unproductive, rather we need to understand why we are feeling this stress.
- Resentment prevents us from thinking of simple and cheap solutions to encourage tidiness- like simply buying a hook for that wet towel he leaves on the bed!
- We may need to: be less of a perfectionist, think ahead and spend a bit to make our lives easier and more peaceful.
- Knowing our wants versus needswill help us have the right perspective.
- Women don’t mind doing a lot if they are adequately appreciated, but we may need to tell him what we need to hear.
- We need to figure out what our duties are, this will look different in every home depending on work schedules.
- Tune in at 35:14 to hear how to budge your husband towards your needs when allocating the budget.
- We need to build on his strengths, not point out his weaknesses. Whatever he does do, we need to notice and appreciate.
- We need a light, happy atmosphere in the home, we can’t let the kids hear the tensions we feel about what our husband should be doing.
- Choose shalomand choose taking care of your husband and the blessing will come.
- Children, family and bosses don’t come close to our marriage relationship. If we spend our energy on this relationship, we will be happy and satisfied in all areas.
- Listen in at 54:58 to hear how to fight for your needs without fighting!
Try This At Home:
Try to notice something your husband does do around the house and thank him for it!
