Get with the times- if there’s equality in the workplace, there can be equality in my home!

Join Leah as she addresses this issue, which is the root of so much conflict in marriage, and so many of us wives can relate to. Time to measure up and hear a new perspective!

Leah’s Points To Ponder:

• Women’s expectations cause anger which is an aveiro(sin). Of course, our husbands should help and do chesed (acts of kindness,) but we should not expect or demand it.
• A woman’s work in the home is her obligation but her husband’s work in the home is chesed. A man has many obligations to his wife, but those obligations are not a woman’s right to make demands of him.
• Partnership doesn’t mean she washes the dishes so he should dry the dishes, partnership is spiritual in nature and can’t be quantified. A woman can’t measure what her husband is doing for the home.
• Any time we find ourselves expecting of our husbands we should switch it to appreciating him and finding what to thank for.
• A woman who barks orders in the name of equality is embarrassing her husband and robbing him of his rightful masculinity.
• Listen at 17:08 to hear exactly how Rebbetzin Kamenetzky advises a wife to ask for help!
• Our mesorah (tradition) teaches that all blessing comes from G-d through the husband to the wife, grasping this makes all the difference.
• Tune in at 24:25 for a story showing the great level a wife can reach with this perspective.
• We expect our husbands to help but we’re so busy being angry at how unfair it is that he’s not pitching in, we forget the art of gentle and correct communication.
• Timecode 36:37 has a fascinating study that marriages which demonstrate a mindset of equality have a 50% higher divorce rate!
• One of the greatest gifts a wife can give her husband is a sense of menucha(serenity) in his home that he won’t be bombarded with demands and chores.
• We are not advocating that a wife become a shmata(dishrag) -we should communicate our need for help but when asking for help we should be mindful that his help is a gift, be mindful how we ask and show gratitude.
• Just accepting responsibility for the household chores helps us to achieve this gratitude and has the added benefit that our husband will want to help more.
• Even if this is difficult to digest, the results are unfathomable closeness- it’s worth a try!

Try This At Home:

One time this week when you’re about to make a command of your husband, do it yourself!