Strap on your seatbelts…this is a journey you don’t want to miss!
Join Leah with guest speaker Rabbi Daniel Kalish who reveals what he feels is the avoda of this generation. You’ll walk away from this show with a depth of understanding, practical tips on being a better mother and a smile on your face!
Points to Ponder:
- Young people today are feelers; they have a tremendous want to feel and understand reasons.
- The older generation needs to tap into this to have more fire in what they do, not just doing it because it’s the right thing to do.
- It’s important to tap into our inner space and work things through. This is the avoda of our generation.
- Naaseh vnishma. Naaseh is “we will do” and this is the older generation. Today’s generation is rooted in Vnishma, “we will listen”; to resonate with and understand our experiences.
- There’s space for feeling down. It’s okay because it shows we’re feeling. The disconnection can bring us somewhere.
- Prayer is talking to G-d. Are we talking to G-d? Connecting, relating?
- We can teach Naaseh if we’re open to Vnishma. Specifically women can hold this and make space for it.
Viewer Questions:
I’ve heard you say regarding parenting: “Let them know you believe in them.” What does that look like on a practical day to day basis?
It’s normal for a mother to worry. A mother needs to stubbornly not worry; to know her child and firmly believe that her child will be okay. This can be so powerful. Step into the place of believing in your child and let them feel it.
You’re known to have a beautiful approach in how to mechanich kids of today. Can you give our listeners 3 tips on how to be the best mom to their kids?
Learn your own story. The only way to lean into your children and understand them is to understand yourself. This might need the help of a therapist or Rov.
Self care. If our kids could communicate this, they would all say “Mommy, live. Be excited because I want you to present for me.” To be unmovable and fully there, we have to be well taken care of.
Realize how powerful parenting is. Whether your child is doing well or not well, don’t budge from their side.
How can a mother instill a love of Hashem and mitzvos in her children and teens?
It’s already in our kids. They have a neshama; we don’t need to instill it. The question isn’t how to instill, the question is how to access it. With love, confidence, giving room to spaces of not knowing and questions.
What is one line a mother can say to her kids that they really want to hear?
Motherly love at its core is that “you’re precious, you’re beautiful and I see you where nobody else does.” It doesn’t need to be earned, it needs to just be there. This is true for a toddler with a messy, sticky face and this is true for a teenage boy with a ponytail and chain.
Can you give us a Shalom bayis tip?
In a world so full of hecticness, worries and access to information, it’s a simple happiness a mother can bring into the home. Whether through music or whatever brings her simcha, it should be a place where she can make a disconnect from the world. Bring positivity, happiness and emunah into the home, into the challa and food; it’ll go far too all the family.
Next Up: When your child’s journey feels rocky and confusing, tune in to Shalom Bayis With Off-The-Derech Kids to discover how to wrap them in unwavering warmth without letting the tension shake your home or your marriage!
