Can’t a lady get some privacy around here?!
Join Leah for a Q & A session as she discusses husbands who want to listen in on their wives and wives who don’t want to listen to their husbands.
Viewer Questions:
Q.1) When I’m on the phone, my husband chimes in and corrects me. I feel like he’s eavesdropping. I envy others who can be on the phone with no worries. Where did I go wrong?
Leah: The first question to ask ourselves is: “Do we chime in?” We need to be aware how much we interfere when he is speaking, on the phone or otherwise and manage our own self. When our husbands are home, we should try not to be on the phone. Often, the type of conversation we have with friends or sisters is more emotional and to let off steam- our husband doesn’t necessarily need to hear all this. Envying others is fruitless- perhaps their husbands are clueless or don’t care. Be aware whether it’s an issue of control as external help would be necessary. In any case, remember that it’s best not to be on the phone when he’s home!
Q.2) My husband often exaggerates when he’s on the phone to people. This makes me doubt the authenticity of what he tells me.
Leah: We often forgive our friends easier than our husbands. If we know a friend exaggerates, we merely take what she says with a pinch of salt. When it’s our husband we start wondering if we can trust him and if we married the wrong guy! Listen in at 10:30 to hear how to communicate your concerns about your husband’s exaggerations without exacerbating the issue!
Q.3) How does social media play into not envying others?
Leah: Our mesorah (tradition) teaches us not to envy others- but how can Hashem mandate our feelings? We need to understand that whilst this is a gut reaction, our responsibility is not allowing it to affect our actions. The anti-envy muscle needs to be worked on. Realizing we have exactly what Hashem knows we need is vital. Tune in at 26:44 to hear how social media tears down the anti-envy muscle and can be poison! We should try to utilize envy to grow by asking ourselves what we can learn from it.
Q.4) Sometimes it’s so hard for me to sit still and listen to my husband. What should I do?
Leah: Recognize how valuable it is to listen. Deep listening and asking questions which encourage him to share brings intense closeness. Our husband is our best friend and we need to do internal work to want to listen and reach closer levels.
Try This At Home:
Tell your husband one time this week that he is your best friend.
