Ladies and Gentlemen Ladies, we’re back for Part 3 of Can This Marriage Be Saved?

Join Leah and see how ‘Suzy’ has been managing and if she is seeing improvements and feeling more love in her marriage. Tune in and fasten your seatbelts as we continue journeying with Suzy.

Leah’s Points To Ponder:

• When a husband shares his opinion, we can see it as him trying to get one up on us or that he is trying to engage. If a husband responds by grunting and walking away, we would feel uncared for, so him giving his opinion means he cares. We need to make effort to see it this way.
• Listen in at 08:30 to hear a crucial point representing our love/hate relationship with micromanagement which makes us love/hate our husbands!Humour is the classified remedy for solving this glad versus mad conundrum.
• We need to think about what we might be doing which sabotages our marriage, and keep away from blaming our husbands by taking accountability.
• When we see our husbands in a myopic way, we are not giving him the space to grow into the man we want him to be.  Journalling what our husband does right causes huge shifts and grows the love in the relationship.(Anyway, if there’s nothing right with him, then what’s wrong with us for choosing him!?)
• Love grows as we give more- give complements.
• When people experience shalom bayis(marital harmony) problems, they think they’re better off starting again with a clean slate. This is mistaken. Past history- the good, the bad and the ugly- is part of what solidifies and unifies couples and adds depth.
• Our husbands have been given to us by G-d. Instead of viewing him negatively, we should realize that part of our tikkun(what we need to fix and achieve) in this world is to grow with this husband.
• We should implement something small to make our husband happy every day.
• Trying to give our husband the benefit of the doubt is hugely beneficial.

Try This At Home:

One time each day, journal something positive about your husband.