Good news, bad news time. The bad news is you may be blocking blessings from entering your home. The GREAT news is that you have the power to demolish those blocks and clear the way for being the ultimate receiver!
In this episode, Leah continues Chapter 5 of Marriage Secrets with pages 102-104, and breaks down common pitfalls to avoid- watching this episode is sure to be a blessing!
Tune in for the first 7 minutes or so to hear the scoop in her own words, beginning at timecode 0:40!
Leah’s Points to Ponder:
- Society may have influenced us to block being a receiver. Be honest about what is holding you back.
- Emotional reasons may cause us to reject our husbands’ gifts. It is crucial to your happiness that you resolve these issues so that you can be a receiver.
- Independence and self-sufficiency are valuable traits, but not in a marital relationship. It is all right to need your husband!
Viewer Questions:
Shevy: It’s such a big job to reteach yourself to receive in a world of independence. It might take so long! How do you stay motivated?
Leah: I’m a big fan of Post-It notes! Tune in at time code 8:10 for suggestions!
Rina: I think I am too independent because I don’t feel like I can really rely on my husband. He has shown me time and time again that I can’t count on him to be there when I need him. So I stopped asking him. How can I make myself start trusting him if he hasn’t been trustworthy in the past?
Leah: You need to understand one thing: a man is only as trustworthy as his wife trusts him to be. Tune in at time code 11:35 for a true story about this issue!
Penina: I feel like I might’ve become a little too dependent on my husband since working on this idea throughout our marriage. I don’t know how I ever lived on my own without him before! He’s just so competent and capable, Baruch Hashem, but now I feel like I’m a lot less competent and capable than I used to be. Is this healthy and normal? Or have I become too dependent?
Leah: That sounds fantastic. Don’t fix what ain’t broke. If you’re feeling badly about yourself because you feel less competent, take on a new project. Remind yourself what a capable person you are. Leaning on someone is so important, so don’t sacrifice that. If you feel like you can’t cope unless your husband does everything and it’s causing problems, then you need to speak to a wise confidante, be it a rabbi or rebbetzin or therapist.
Kaily: What if I change into being a good receiver quickly and my husband comments on it, “Wow, you’ve changed!”, and he’s afraid that I’m just being fake?
Leah: You can say, “I’m not being fake, I’m just trying to be the best wife I can be!” I don’t think he’s going to question too much that you’re being a better wife!
Try This at Home:
This week, work on discovering what your personal blockage to receiving from your husband might be.
