How can I make my husband my top priority when I am not coping? I’m an exhausted, overworked and underpaid mother- help!

Join Leah with guest speaker Atara Malach for simple, clear and powerful tips to gain competence and confidence in your parenting and see how this links to having an enhanced marriage.

Leah’s Points To Ponder:

• When there is shalom bayis(marital harmony), there is bracho (blessing). Our focus needs to be on shalom and putting our husbands first, which is fundamental to this
• It’s hard to put him first when there are so many parenting questions and troubles. Gaining parenting skills will help things run smoother so that we can prioritize our husbands.

Scenario: Daddy comes home, everyone is vying for his attention, things are flying and the kids just won’t leave us alone!

Top Tips:

• The middle component of the following traffic light analogy is what we need in our relationships.
  • Green= Green, Love, Go.
  • Red= Red, Authority, No.
  • Yellow= Yellow, Trust, Slow.
• Each child should be raised according to their individual needs and when we have the skills, we will know the correct amount of love, authority and trust for each child.
• Green- positive communication and routines. The children are topped up with sufficient love before Daddy comes home and are made to feel excited for when he does.
• Red- mother having clarity of her expectations to make “red rules”. Ask self what bothers and hinders me the most when making my husband my priority and make 2 do’s and 2 don’ts based on that. Tune in at 20:02 to hear an example of how to show your children your expectations to keep your time with your husband sacred.
• Yellow- giving choices to build a child’s responsibility. Listen in at 26:15 to hear how to stop being a demanding bossy mother through the secret of “wh” questions!A great strategy is “when…then,” eg “WHEN Daddy comes home he will spend 5 minutes with you, THEN he will eat with Mummy.”
• Mummy guilt has value- use it, don’t lose it. Listen at timecode 40:48 for an example of how to utilize and embrace your mummy guilt!
• The perfect time to make a change is now! No matter what your personality or tendencies, don’t wait, just make the change now! Listen in at 45:10 for a powerful story which will get you moving and changing!

Try This At Home:

Think of a way to build up the excitement of Daddy coming home, and implement it once this week.