Dear Husband, as you scroll through your phone, you’re missing out on life with us. I love you but you’re addicted to your phone; it’s more important to you than we are… your phone is breaking us. Love, most wives of this generation.

Join Leah as she approaches the smart phone boundary crisis in our generation. Stop scrolling and listen to what to do and how to do it, the smart way!

Leah’s Points To Ponder:

• Our phones prevent us from deeply connecting with our loved ones. We need to stay away from blaming our husbands and rather work on a solution together.
• There are two aspects to phone use: work related and recreation.
• Work usage- needs a mindset shift. Rather than being mad at our husbands, we need to realize that heightened phone usage is a global change and this is just how it is nowadays. We all want a dependable husband who is responsible for our income. We want him busy with his phone for this purpose and we need to appreciate this in order not to decrease his productivity.
• Recreational usage- this is much harder to deal with, especially when us women are busy and frazzled. Realizing that recreational usage is also necessity can help us steer clear of resentment. Our husbands need downtime. Of course, a walk is preferable, but we need to get real and cut them some slack.
• Tune in at 17:58 to hear telltale signs whether your husband is an addict…or if you might be an addict! If it’s really interfering with your life, get help.
• Here are some solutions:
  • Making daily phone free blocks of time. Timecode 20:54 will show you how to cut a deal to secure this in a respectful, understanding way.
  • Using Apps which show time usage- don’t be your husband’s police, the app might hopefully shock him into making that change.
  • Changing notifications to important messages only. Accomplishing and connecting are mutually exclusive; they don’t go hand in hand.
  • Communicating appropriately by saying how it makes you feel rather than attacking what he is doing. Listen in at 28:44 to hear how to add softness to this tough topic.
  • Presenting it as a brainstorming session rather than saying what you want him to do.
  • Journaling before you communicate to release some of the resentment.

Try This At Home:

One time this week, put your phone away when you really don’t want to.

One time this week, schedule a phone-free time slot.

One time this week, schedule a brainstorming session with your husband.